This update is a follow-up to three previous updates:
• Using your Mind to Defeat Morgellons
• Using Your Mind to Defeat Morgellons Part II
• Using Your Mind to Defeat Morgellons Part III
To fully understand this update, it's important to first read those three updates. If you've already read them, it's important to review them again.
Who are you? Answer: You are identified by your first, middle, and last name given to you at birth. That's really who you are. But, since the time you were born your mind has been a sponge. It absorbed facts and beliefs. And the problem is that your mind didn't question which was fact and which was belief.
For instance, 2 + 2 = 4 is a fact. "Your ears are too big," is a belief. The most formidable years are the early years 4 to 10. By age 12 one knows whether he believes in God or not and has developed or not developed prejudices that can lead to bigotry.
The problem is that most beliefs are assumed as fact. Consequently, you adopt beliefs about your short comings, what you need to do to succeed, your religious beliefs, what you believe about emotions such as anger, depression, loneliness...., morality, ethics, politics, and on and on.
The problem is that you've gone from John Smith or Mary Smith to so much more and are now defined by so much more as described in last paragraph. As I wrote in Using Your Mind to Defeat Morgellons Part II, as much as 70% of the mind can be in conflict. Inability to resolve many of these conflicts can result in a whole slew of health and psychological issues.
From my experience in working with thousands of clients as a stress management specialist, I have come to realize that if we were not limited in our abilities to deal with emotion and truly knew how to build self esteem as revealed in my book, My Dog Got Run Over By a Rainbow, most therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists would be out of jobs.
Religion is much the same. As stated before, our beliefs about religion and God are most often established by age 12. Yes, it takes a little longer to firm up one's belief about God and religion than it does to realize that Santa Claus doesn't exist. And remember, most of these early beliefs come from our parents and clergy. And realize, that most of their beliefs were also established before they were 12. And this goes back generation after generation. What happens after age 12? Answer: We build on those early beliefs with interpretation of scripture of whatever bible is associated with the particular religion.
The only way we can progress in life is to challenge who we have become beyond our first, middle, and last name, i.e. challenge our beliefs--every one of them! As I noted in Part II of How to Defeat Morgellons Using Your Mind, instead of having beliefs, you are your beliefs. What's the difference? Answer: You can wear a coat and love it, and you can take it off and never wear it again. So, you have a coat and it is not part of you. Can you do that with your beliefs? or would you feel lost and naked without those beliefs? Even core beliefs?
With respect to dealing with skin parasites, your beliefs come with a lot of emotion for various reasons--depression, anger, confusion, uncertainty, and so on. How emotions are handled can result in one's demise or move one on to creativity leading to solution of any problem. Our leader, Margie, of the first part of our Sunday calls--see details below--often says, "We are not our skin parasitic disease, we have skin parasites." It's important to make that distinction.
This update is not about core beliefs about religion, morality, your short comings, and so on (although it could be), it is about the beliefs you have about emotions that can interfere with getting your life back from Morgellons and other skin parasites.
The ultimate goal with emotion is to experience them. When you experience an emotion it disappears and leaves space for creativity. Unfortunately, our beliefs about certain emotions can stand in the way of us experiencing emotions.
For instance, let's look at anger. Everyone has beliefs about this charged emotion. You might not pay much attention to the emotion or you might even ignore it. Theodore Isac Rubin MD, a psychiatrist, wrote The Angry Book . The entire book is about how people create other perversions to avoid dealing with anger. For instance, some become accident prone, saboteurs, anti social behavior, failure mechanisms, develop panic and anxiety, health issues and so on. Unfortunately, he does not get into what to do with the emotion. Fortunately, that is no longer an unknown.
Dr Rubin points out that the reasons people develop perversions is to avoid dealing with anger because they have acquired beliefs about why they should not get angry. He calls them "sealers." And, for the most part, they do not even consciously realize what they are doing. The beliefs have become so ingrained that they do not question them--and instead have become conditioned to avoid with a learned perversion.
To understand where I'm going with this, I want you to write down , "I enjoy being angry." Now you will most likely find that a silly statement and immediately the thought comes up, "No, I don't like being angry."
Great. we're getting somewhere. Now write down all the reasons why you don't like being angry. Try to come up with at least a half dozen reasons.
The reasons might be one or some of the following:
• Anger is a primitive uncivilized emotion and I'm a civilized person.
• Anger is beneath my dignity.
• Being angry is a waste of time.
• If I get angry, others will know how to press my buttons.
• Anger is a stupid emotion.
• I'll lose control and my blood pressure will go up.
• I'll look stupid.
• The good book says to "turn the other cheek."
and this list could go on and on. It's your job to add as much to this list as you can.
After you've done that, write, "I enjoy being depressed." Again, you'll find that most likely to be another ridiculous statement. And, again write down all the reasons why that's not true. Again try to come up with at least a half dozen reasons. Such as:
• No one likes to be around a depressed person.
• I shouldn't be depressed because (make another list)
• I have two legs, two arms, and so on.
• There are many other so much worse off than I am.
• I'll be the rotten apple in the barrel.
• It's no good to be depressed--serves no useful function.
and again, this list can go on and on and it's your job to add as much to this list as you can.
Great, we're on a roll and just getting started. Let's go on to some other emotions and handle them the same way.
"I enjoy being confused."
"I like being uncertain.."
"I like feeling upset."
"I like being frustrated."
"I like feeling excited."
Do this for every emotion you can think of--especially every emotion you can think of related to suffering from skin parasites.
In a future update, I'll reveal how you can use this in your brain talk to release creativity.